When I see couples in my consulting room, it is the *Relationship* between

the two individual people that is my client.

Sometimes the relationship develops a deepening of emotional and relational intimacy, this can bring us a greater sense of connectedness. Sometimes I may offer support, sometimes I may present challenges to the relationship needs and it may mean that people choose to part *AND* we can create a safer separation and departure of those roles and/or responsibilities, in a way that is not about blame, shame and making the other responsible. Instead, together we find understanding in the re-shaping of the couple might change, the roles are re-defined, and responsibilities aligned. This is especially important in relationships with where children might otherwise, potentially, be left with the burden of split loyalties, confusion and deep loss.

Often couples might feel they are trapped in unhealthy or unhelpful patterns of communication and some counterproductive interpersonal dynamics. When we work together, the couple could finally gain greater awareness of these patterns between them and to begin to make meaningful and impactful changes to their relationship.